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While I am writing this my timer is ticking to keep me on path. I am embarking on an experimentation to see what happen when you dedicate time to a particular task over a given period. It’s about quarter to 7 in the morning. I decided to make this task the first thing I accomplish on my list before leaving my room. Before all those seas of procrastination and distraction flow through. I want to start off by giving myself a chance to make this habit stick and to not get drowned with conflicting interest. To do this I have to first manage and control my environment, so I can minimise setbacks and take better step to accomplishing this task. 

Its Sunday morning, I am sitting in bed with my back rested with a pillow to the wall. I pull out my laptop, opened the window to let some air inside and I log into my Window (I couldn’t help but add that play on words). The crowing of the crows and birds chirping outside always adds ambience in this side of towns. It’s also a good time because the neighbours have not woken up yet to start bumping their weekend music and so on. So, any distraction now would be self-imposed either through mental charter or to lack of self-restrain. These are areas I have focused on over the years, and I will share my learnt lesson in other chapters on how I view and manage them.

Over the last few years bringing awareness to my movement and path has been an area I invested both energy and time to understand. The hope to bring clarity around the things I do and to understand whether these things have any relationship with my long-term goals. Sometimes it’s really hard to gauge if our miniscule day to day work has any significant to the sea of time. Then there are certain situations our habits feel so valuable to us, but they absolutely have no alignment with the long-term goals we visualise. Those goals may be set in a different dimension and the habits follow a parallel path towards it. Why is that? How could someone be doing something so significant to them in each moment but at the same time this trajectory keeps diverting further away from their long-term objective?
I feel the reason we have gaps in between these goals verses habits scenarios could be due to these reasons. One of this is we just that we don’t ask good questions or prompts about our wants and desire. What do I mean by this? I have always wondered how I could achieve my goals in the areas of finance. To bring a better picture to that moment I will go a little bit back.

When you ask most people about what their pursuit for money is, especially in the younger stages of their life. When asked as to how much they want to make; their response would most often be something like I want to make a million or I want to be a millionaire or billionaire or something around that. I am or was also one of them people programmed by society to be such. It just sounds cool to be spitting out those words. It does make us feel big or valuable when we say it. However, I have been realising the older I am getting (adulting kicking in). These questions are only in the wish phase, and most will keep our wants in the wish phase through our entire life. Simply because us human beings really fear asking questions that may break down our reality and belief. So, we keep ourselves in cycles of wishful thinking which gives us that boost of energising chemical in the body, but they are short lived and do not move us anywhere. Where if we ask proper and actionable questions those wishes get broken into workable items. We start to realise what input needs to go with that million- or billion-dollar fiat currency dream. 

So, you are wondering, what are proper or good questions. This sounds obvious but the first is to ask what do you want?     Okay now pause for a bit.    What do you really want? This is the first approach you should take with your question. When you asked the first, what do I want? High percentage of the time they are not your wants. They are construct believe that was imposed on your thinking over extended periods either by society or because of your environment. Nonetheless when you ask yourself what you want, note down your first instinctive response whether they happen to be yours or not. Then repeat what do I want questioning three times if your answers do not alter too far from the initial response; then you may have got a starting point for your journey. Note down all the list of responses you get to this question and go into as much details as you can. Include what that wants look, feel, behaves or act like. Dive as deep as you can into that environment of what it feels like when you achieve that want. What exist? What doesn’t exist? Who or what is with you in the moment when you achieve that want. We want to live in our want as long as possible to get all the intricate details from that timeline. All the emotional stimuli that you feel when you think about that want, record it through the best medium that captures the most detail for you. This will be important in later interaction.

Then the next question after our wants; comes the why do I want this? This question is an important indicator of our odds. It will indicate whether it’s bound to remain in the wish phase or if it is truly achievable. Asking the why behind your wants shows you how intense and important it is to you to achieve this objective. The less option or diverting path you have behind your why the more likely you are going to accomplish his objective. What I mean by is if your why puts you into a mind state that exerts a, I must accomplish this objective otherwise nothing changes and if nothing changes things will remain in these possibilities. When your current condition makes you feel that there is more to life than what I am experiencing. The intensity of that emotional current will be our greatest sway towards our ambitions and objective. The need of exploring alternate possibilities must outweigh your level of comfort and conformity to your current condition. These formulae enhance your odds of pushing through the mental and physical barriers that you may encounter on your journey.

Furthermore, look at what areas of life your why is aiming to impact (personal, societal, universal). Universal Why have the most intense internal driver but they are the most difficult to achieve due to level of sacrifice often required. In situation where your why does not allow for options or choices you may have stumbled onto something worth pursuing. If there are still too many deviating paths leading away from the final impact timeline keep asking what and why until your mental compass understand where you want to go. Why are we trying to narrow it down? Simply because we are easily distracted when we have too many options. Our efforts will be exceedingly difficult to see and even harder to gain indicators of its impact. Think of it like you adding a teaspoon of spice in a saucepan and compared to adding it in the ocean. Too many unfocused attentions dilute our capacity and capability. I shall expand on approaches to assist with this in later chapters.

The third valuable question to ask is How? How do I get there, what is our mode of transportation to reaching this destination? This question is a great indicator for our core value. Which will reveal a bit about Who you are, which is also a valuable question to ask. Your What, shows you your mission. Your Why, shows the impact capability or drive. The How, shows the value that you are to transmit. There are multitude paths we can take to reach our destination. There are narrow paths, wide paths, long, short, high pressured and others feel like you are on cruise control the whole time. It all comes down to what you want to tolerate in your journey. Asking the How question early, will help with what to say no to and yes to. Whenever we say yes or no, we are making choices to open or close a certain door or pathway. If you start saying yes to things that will dilute your why, you may still reach your destination but when you arrive it may feel like it was not worth it. Because decision you made to get the end were not align with your value. 

To summarise the chapter let us use an analogy to visualise the 3 or 4 questions. If you were at point A looking to get to point B. Your WHAT would be where you want to go; what is at the destination in this instance its point B. Your WHO, are your traits or skills, character and believes because certain components will need our sacrifice or an enhancement to be able to achieve the desire. Your WHY is your reason behind wanting to go there. What is the motivation to go to point B; what is there? Are you running from or to something? Then your HOW is the mode of transport and how do we want to arrive there. We may choose to fly, drive, ride or walk and so forth - this is a figure of speech of course. On route towards the destination, we may choose tangent through other areas of scenery to gain more knowledge, skills, or experience for our journey. To emphasis it all starts with what you dictate or decide prior to moving; yes, these can still be done while you are on the move already but often in such approach, I found you may have too many areas of compromise. Due to certain decisions that we may have made initially that would not be considered in alignment with our path. This again may result in that unsatisfactory feeling when the end of one's journey comes, the feeling of regret and disappointment. Every journey is different and unique but if you plan yours well you could make the most out of the experience. How will you begin yours?