I noticed something interesting about life, that when things are going your way or in unfortunate circumstance not going your way. That phase seems to prolong itself; it is like time tend to slow down. Current flows smoothly into your sail and carries you along with no significant effort. That is of course when you are in a winning position but when you are in a losing position everything is gravity. My brothers and I love playing games of cards, when they come over to visit on weekends, it is one of our past times. Although the game gets heated at times, with individuals playing mind games to get the upper hand. I have come to notice this weird phenomenon that usually happen. It appears when someone is in a losing or winning phase, they tend to continue that trajectory for a bit longer. It is like it is easier to win when you are winning, and the case is also the same for when you are losing.

The feeling of momentum is stimulated internally and when that happens, everything reflects the energy state of the individual. Winners, win, and losers lose. When I noticed this, I started to observe it internally, especially when I am in my ‘winning phase.’ I wanted to understand and note what that feeling is… I found in the winning phase I am calm and I tend to gamble with riskier decision because I feel so far ahead. The thing with that is fear of losing seems to dissipate. During the phase of decision making and prior to me committing to the action at hand; I talk to myself and reassure that I will be okay with whether it turns out as a lost because of my previous winning position. I feel I can make up for it in upcoming rounds should this wager not go my way because I feel so far ahead. Somehow my win amplifies by drawing ‘winning’ energy from all the other players. I become invincible! Well until the tide starts to shift, after making multiple decision that do not work out.

I have also taken the time to observe myself when I am on the opposite spectrum, the losing phase. It is a very tight feeling in the body. I become very self-aware of the ‘losing phase’ and more sensitive to the actions of other people. Whether it is being intentionally done to disturb my rhythm (which happens a lot) or not, it influences me a lot more. I make safer decision and I gamble in a way not to get me into further losing positions. Also, just to clarify when I say gamble I am not talking in terms of financial gains. I am simply referring to variability of decision making. Okay back to it. The result of this phenomena is an obvious one, it is not fun or exciting when one is in a losing phase. My older brother indicates this by just saying he is hungry and makes excuse that is the reason he is losing. Which I have come to realise is a great strategy to change momentum.

When you are in winning or losing phase; I am going to focus on the losing with this example and apply the principle to life in general. In a losing phase you need to find a way that can abruptly change the momentum in your favour. Something must shock the system, in this context the winning phase of the other individual. Having time out to top up your belly could be a good example, but certain environment may not have those options available. So, what do you do? The first thing for myself always is starts off by me noticing and acknowledging what phase I am in but be careful with that. Do not talk and will yourself into a losing position, when you are winning or vice versa, unless that was your goal. When you acknowledge what phase, you are in, repair your internal dialogue. What I mean by this every move you make external put them in visual ladder internally, move them up and down based on actions you take. You get a small win, move up the ladder. You lose momentum, move down the ladder.

The goal is to get into a winning state; here is the weird part. The winning does not have to relate to the activity you are performing at that very moment. We just want to amplify a winning energy. You look for areas that you are performing well in and may even be past victories. Our goal is simply to change tides by any mean at our disposal. Other people do it by taking wins from others, which I do not recommend. However, this is how you could apply such a strategy…narrow down only on errors and flaws of the person in the winning phase. When they make a false move, you make them aware of their error and reinforce that into their psyche. They become aware they made a losing move (I have also observed this through the games). However, this backfire when the person who is winning has gain too much of a momentum because their next win wipes out all your built-up confidence and may put you back even further in the ditch (mentally of course). So, creating momentum in your own winnings may be slow but it is something you can manage and when you get it right it can compound into something great. Hopefully that eventually gets you back to the surface and ready to play the game on an equal playing field.